Welcome home, mum!

What a perfect way to start the year – 7 days detoxing at Gwynganna, situated in the hinterlands of South Queensland.  The weather was beautiful one day, perfect the next – well except for that torrential deluge that I got caught in whilst braving the elements between club rooms and spa (handwork this detoxing!).  Eyes clear, feeling strong, awake, energised and vital. And this is how I want to stay for the rest of this year so this is my gold standard. I don’t really care how much I weigh – it is not really the point.  The point is to feel great. Waiting at the Coolangatta Airport for my 4:30pm flight back to Melbourne I breath in the aroma of rancid fat and oil, the harried worried looks on the faces of those around me, dark ringed eyes – and these people are coming off holidays!  Watching as they put away sugar filled hamburgers – artefacts that will no doubt be dug up by our descendants hundreds of years from now – wholly preserved.  They won’t find me – I’ll be completely decomposed.  But my body and what I eat is not the legacy I want to leave anyway so I don’t care. Wake the next morning in my own bed – again feeling great (now I am getting annoying).  Into the kitchen and prepare a lovely, gluten free muesli, rice milk and fresh fruit – mmmmmm yumbo.  Sit down at my usual place at the table overlooking my bountiful veggie garden (well not yet very bountiful – but it will be – just telling the truth in...
Habitual congruence

Habitual congruence

I argue that the key to leading your best life, achieving big things and being your best self is largely about being congruent (your real self matching your ideal self).  However, we are not always in the habit of being congruent.  According to Charles Duhigg, author of ‘The Power of Habit’, habits are the patterns of behaviour and unthinking rituals that we have established over our lives.  ‘Unthinking’ is the operative word here.  Without conscious thought we will invariably opt for the more pleasant experiences and routines until these form ‘ruts’ in our brains and our days. If these habits are incongruent with our ideal self, then these are ‘bad’ habits.  Simple.  Unfortunately, many of our habits have been formed around pleasant, rewarding experiences, not all of which are good, healthy or congruent.  You know which I mean (sleeping in; eating chocolate; drinking wine; eating white chocolate and raspberry muffins at the local expresso cafe…. OK – now you know mine – what are yours!) Good habits are often those that require a heavy dose of discipline and an ability to defer gratification.  In previous posts, I have discussed the power of habits to remove decisions from your day – because decisions take time and energy which dwindles as the day goes on so you end up making crappy decisions and poor choices by 3pm in the afternoon (incongruent choices that is).    Creating a good habit, like getting up early and exercising, that becomes unthinking and non-negotiable, will not only make you look good eventually, it also makes you feel good almost immediately: a reward that will reinforce...